It’s not what you do once in a while but what you do every day that counts. Every night empty your mind of the little hurts and grudges you have accumulated during the day. Do not let the hurts become a festering wound.
Every night as you retire to bed, think of the people who have wronged you through the day—wronged you, harmed you, cheated you, or taken undue advantage of you. Think of them all then call out their names one by one and forgive them verbally.
Actually say, Mr. XYZ, I forgive you, I forgive you, I forgive you. Mrs. XYZ, I forgive you, I forgive you, I forgive you. Miss XYZ, I forgive you, I forgive you, I forgive you. You will have a sound sleep and you will have wonderful dreams. Do not wait for the wrongdoer to come and ask for your forgiveness. Forgive even before forgiveness is asked.
Get an empty chair in front of you. Now imagine, the person you are angry with or the person you need to forgive sitting on the chair. Feel your emotions towards that person. Hurt, anger, hatred, bitterness, feel all the emotions towards that person. Now, swap your position, sit on the other chair and imagine yourself as that person. Think about what may have been that person’s situation or predicament. Contemplate how that person might feel after hearing about the deep pain or hurt or anger. You will realize that the person must have felt remorseful, disappointed about his/her actions. After this, go back to your original position and respond to that other person. You will realize this time that the anger or bitterness within you has shifted and you will feel compassion for that person. This process enables you to feel differently – empathy and compassion – about the wrong doer.
Cut the Cord
Think about the person in your life you are holding a grudge against, close your eyes, and visualize a negative cord of energy attaching you to that person. Next take a deep breath and see that cord being cut with both of you gently floating apart, releasing the negative energetic bind. Continue to do this until you feel you have released the experience. If you are still struggling, write an unedited letter to the offender expressing all of your feelings. Read the letter to a trusted friend or simply aloud and then burn it someplace safe. Visualize the energetic cord being cut while you are burning the letter and silently repeat, I am FREE. Repeat the releasing process as needed and watch what shifts in your life.